Toxic Relationships Among University Students.

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TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS AMONG UNIVERSITY STUDENTS.

Falling in love...everyone dreams of finding a Mr. Right or the perfect lady in which they will grow and nurture their love together. It doesn't matter where or when as long as both of your hearts "click" or get the electricity kind of a feeling whenever the two of you make body contacts as many of us believe that those are the signs of falling in love😘❤.

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We grew up with the notion that all campus relationships end with the perfect weddings, beautiful kids and later grow old together. We believed in the fairy tale fantasies that two people will meet along campus corridors, clash into one another, have books scattered all over the place, pick them up and then swoosh!!! They fall in love. Well no, It does not happen that Way😂😂.

University students do fall in love, they get to be the center of attraction...everyone admires them...the matching outfits...the goals. Then there comes in the "kamati ya roho chafu" with their slogan, "wataachana tu!" The big question is the "wataachana tu" how does it happen? Do they break up in a civilised manner or does the break up ignite hate...vengeance...grief and so much pain?

Breaks up are painful...very painful...but does it mean that you have to kill somebody's son or daughter? Does it give us the right to disfigure someone's face with an acid? Does it justify the act of someone getting bullied? Someone getting crippled? No it doesn't. Recently university love scandals have been the talk of the town, we've heard of different institutions loosing their students due to love triangle cases whereby a lover kills his or her lover cause he or she either cheated or asked for a huge amount of money and then breaks off the relationship. Others get bullied simply because they either stared at someone's boyfriend or winked at someone else's girlfriend. It's actually hilarious on my part, but the fact that somebody either loses his or her life pains me.

Universities such as;

Mt. Kenya

Moi university

Kabianga &

Maseno- have been involved in cases where students end up dead due to love affairshttps://www.sde.co.ke/thenairobian/article/2000161027/deadly-campus-romance-tragic-stories-of-kenyan-university-students-who-kill-for-love

 The link above will give you more details on how relationships in campus have gotten toxic.

We have other cases where couples break up in campus and later on a leaked sex tape goes viral leading to either of the two committing suicide. Sharing of the tape is not really a mature way to deal with break up.

It's does not only involve students but also prominent leaders in the society. The Obado and Msando crisis is still fresh in our heads we find that the two ladies involved were also campus students. https://www.sde.co.ke/article/2001297075/prominent-kenyans-caught-up-in-love-triangles

So my question is are we really ready for relationships? Are we sure that it's what we want? It's not about a question of who is dating the most eligible bachelor in town or the prettiest and fairest of them all. No! It's a question of love, loyalty, trust, dependency and most of all openness. Why should you cheat on someone? Why should you make them believe that you love them when in the real sense you only want to use them? Stay true to yourself and to your partner... If the love is no longer their just tell them so as to avoid such cases, and to you who is being let go, accept the break up...no need going violent.

Remember the students are children of a particular family, and no amount of compensation can amount for their loss.

So if you can't deal with relationships leave it...maybe you ain't grown enough to deal with it.

That was my take on the relationships...let's talk about this so that i can also get your views on this topic💙😊.

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I OVERCAME

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I OVERCAME.

On 13th August 2017, I lost a close person in my life...my beloved Dad. He was my friend, a person i looked up to...one with whom I shared my deepest secrets with, my dreams, aspirations, my fears and my deepest desires. Time had come for him to leave and i just had to accept it. It took me long enough to OVERCOME that. Sleepless nights filled with tears, i tried getting busy, distracting myself with numerous activities,but at the end it came down to the fact that he was GONE and he wasn't going to back to me...to us.

I used to be the one comforting others not knowing that I would be in the same situation as them later on. I learnt that the comforting words from people like ,"don't worry, everything happens for a reason, you going to get past this" never really help in the healing process, cause after the words, they are going to go back to their homes and you'll be left on your own to grieve feeling the emptiness.

I got affected with his loss to the extent that I lost hope...I lost my faith...I lost the meaning of existence, and I was only filled with hate and anger towards God for taking him away from me. I was almost taking a wrong turn in life, but God had other plans for me. He sent an angel in the form of a friend...she showed me that losing someone isn't the end of life.

JOHN 14:18 I WILL NOT LEAVE YOU AS .ORPHANS;I WILL COME TO YOU. This was the verse that she had given me to read, and later on as I sat and thought over it I saw that she was right... Our Lord is the father to the fatherless, and he never lets harm come in the way of His children. He gives comfort to the ones grieving(Lamentations 3:31-33), as i started reading these verses from the bible I learnt that even though he's no longer with me, he had left me in the care and protection of the Most High.

I felt my strength being renewed to greater heists and I regained back my faith and all that was lost. I saw the purpose of life and that's when i knew that i had OVERCAME.
Grief, loneliness, emptiness, hate, anger, vengeance and Fear i had OVERCOME ALL THAT!!!

So am speaking to someone here...Don't let the situation that you in right now put you down, don't let it be the reason of you not prospering.

He said it's finished...say to the mountain I overcame...say to the problem you came too late...tell that sickness I already won and trust me you'll overcome all.

I OVERCAME!!! my grief anger and all it's all behind me now.


That was what my post was all about today...overcoming all and starting all afresh...give me your views and comments on what you've encountered and overcame.

#I OVERCAME...